memories of love

My father always had an eclectic taste in music for being a dad. He was always trying to listen to the latest hip music. He would go to the Electric Fetus in Minneapolis and choose what ever the latest and coolest was.

Sade is certainly not current or cool, and perhaps not even unusual for a parent to be listening to, but nonetheless growing up in my house Sade was something stocked in the wall of music that my father owned.

The summer before I went to Waseda, I was living in DC. During that term I visited Costa Rica to do a practicum on environmental development. We visited a lot of areas, but towards the end of the trip we were on a beach near Puerto Viejo. One night we visited a strangely authentic italian resturant, run by Italians on the beach. It was an open air resturant near the beach with absolutely great food. I'll never forget that they were playing Sade in the background at that resturant, crabs running across the red tile floors and sloths in the trees. It's one of the vivid memories I have from Puerto Viejo.

After coming back to Minneapolis, idly running through my father's music selection as I often did, I popped in Sade. I listened to it the entirety of that idyllic summer. Anyone who knows Sade, knows that she sings about, love, mostly its emotive power and its unrequitted-ness. One song in particular struck me: Tatoo. here's an abridged version of some of the lyrics:
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..and he spoke of his dreams
Broken by the burning of his youth.

I remember his hands
And the way the mountains looked
The light shot diamonds from his eyes
Hungry for life
And thirsty for the distant river

Like the scar of age, written all over my face
The war is still raging inside of me
I can still feel the chill, because I revealed my shame to you
I'll wear it like a tattoo
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It just struck a chord with me. I had never been in love then, and could so visualize these images, borrowing from both Gauguin's 'Where are we going, and where have we been' as well as the scene in Yukio Mishima's 'Sound of Waves' (even though it may have been written tongue and cheek) when one of the protaginists jumps over the flames to embrace the other, the light shooting diamonds from his eyes, in my mind anyway.

Since that summer I haven't heard that song, until last week. My roommate, back from a business trip with a day off, had it in the CD player when the timer went off and it started playing by itself. The CD eventually got to Tattoo.

And it made me smile. And then it made me somewhat misty eyed and nostaligic. For many things. Certainly that italian cafe in Puerto Viejo with the great Gorgonzola ravioli and the crabs and sloths.

But it made me realize, that I have experienced all those emotions of love myself. Without getting to gritty in details, He has spoken of his dreams, broken by the burning of his youth. I do remember his hands and the way the mountains looked, the light shooting diamonds from his eyes. The war has still raged inside of me, like the scar of age, feeling the chill from reviealing my shame to you.

But I like the subtle difference in expression. Although it speaks of the scar of age, it speaks of love like a tattoo. Rather than a mark of accidental pain, a display of personal suffering from the past, love is a tattoo, something that was intentional that you carry with you.